living without regrets.

 

Life starts from the day we born, to be something and to get something, we live in this journey of life, we laugh, we cry, we achieve, we lost, we live and we die, this is the journey to know who we are, to find who we are, what the life is, to create a new life, to make a better life of self and for others to with all the conditionings, with all the happiness and miseries this journey of life starts, in childhood we don’t think too much or worried  much to be something, we just don’t care about future what will happen, we just live in a way because we get everything we want and sometimes when we want something more, our parents gave us and the less desires leads the childhood to a golden time of life, I think many humans can suffer thinking about their adulthood, but I don’t think we will ever find a person who hate his childhood, only a certain people may be hate who they are or about conditions or situations they face at time, real problem starts when we grow up, because with growing up our desires, our expectations, our wishes and our purpose to be something or to do something or to finding and then creating ourselves grow with us too, and therefore they leads us to do more to achieve more and to achieve more and more, we get confused what to do first? You know a person who wants to achieve many things end up achieving nothing but regret about life. Take example of a dog, when you go for a walk with you dog, he will always try to find something, he will never stop in middle of the way, that’s how we humans are, we always wants to find and get more and more in this journey of life, and many people ended up getting nothing but regret about how they live, today many people live in a way that when they think about their past they suffer, than they always think about past that I should have done this or what if I have done this, today I was great, they regret about their life the way they life, the way they spent their time, the way they behave in that time with people, and they think I did wrong and that regret make suffering in their life, I don’t know why but we humans never get satisfied with anything, we always want to do more, to earn more, to love more, and to live more and more and more, not just with us, this expectations of getting more or having more never get fulfilled, not just with ourselves but with others too, if someone can fulfil your one wish, other expectation will pope up, and that’s how our relations are today, we make a business of fulfilling expectations, and desires and emotions, and therefore if someone will not fulfill your expectation, we feel like we are being deceived, but when we realize the reality we regret doing things, we should not do this, we behave wrong, now with us, we have a relationship with us too, your thoughts are you relative, not different from you but a part of you, your time, something you want to be, and this journey of life they all are our relatives, and how we spent them decide we will be happy or sad we will regret of will be happy, we spent time in a way that when we think about past most of time we regret, think we regret, and there are a list of regrets in our and this is the reason of our suffering in life. We humans are very strange, we don’t value things when we have lots of them but when they gone or start going or when we start losing something we start valuing them, and cry that why we don’t value them first, like life and time, we have this beautiful life and we are able to do anything we want but what happens, we just spent them like it’s useless and when we get older many people suffer because of this and it leads them to attachment and suffering, we never understand value of things that we have now and when we lost them we start crying for them, this is our main problem, and than we regret about things, another thing is time, we all wants to do many things, but most of us, just decline doing them just by thinking that we will do it some other days, day and day passed and that memory makes us suffer more and regret more, so what should we do to live freely, to live in a way that when death come, we can be able to hug the death happily? The only answer is live the way we want to live, to not taking things for granted when we have them in lots and to use them in right way. Other most important thing is to know which things leads you to be free ? to find the answer of this question we must know first that which things leads us to be attached, what is the main reason of our suffering? What leads a person to overthink? What creates all the miseries and problems in life? The answer is having too many desires leads a person to suffer more and to think more, when a person have many desires, when a person wants to achieve everything, when a person wants to be like that, to be like that, to have this and also to have this, his mind works all the day and night, thinking about that things he want, thinking about how he will get all this things, thinking about what will happen when he will get all this, and what if he don’t, and that’s the wall he creates in his life, to be something more, to have more, to achieve more, he just walk around this walls all his life, thinking about it, and the bad thing is human desires will never end, they will increase day by day, even after having things that he wants, he will want to have more, and in the end , he will regret, regret about not living a life that he should have lived, so what to do? Don’t desire for anything? No we must have desires, but some desires can nourish us, can make us better, you must understand what desire will nourish your well being and what desires will destroy your being, it’s easy, it’s very easy, like having enough for you and your family is good, having a good purpose of life is good, to see everyone to be happy and healthy, there are many things , what destroy our happiness is that useless desires, that have no sense, and you can live happily without them to. Having a peaceful state of mind leads you to be free in the end, to be grateful when you die, to have this feeling in your heart that yes I live this journey, I enjoy this journey the way I want to live. This is all freedom, freedom is not something else, when you doesn’t have too many desires, your heart will be more peaceful and will work on the purpose you want to achieve, then you will live with vitality, you will live with fullness, it’s not something else but attitude, it’s something good, it’s part of god, desires will never end, you can try and you will die trying to completer your desires